0210 - Quotes - 2021.10.11 |
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Comment: There are a variety of ways in which people can deal with conflict. Personally, I'm an avoidance kinda guy. If I've got beef with somebody - or if I think they may have beef with me - I keep the contact to a minimum. That's one of the chief benefits of ditching the nine-to-five and being my own boss - there are very few circumstances in which I'm obligated to keep hanging out with somebody who hates my guts. Of course, there are a variety of problems with the avoidance strategy. Without communication to reiterate what your problem is, it can build up into something it's not - or, more likely, fade away until you forget what perfectly legitimate reason you have for the conflict. Avoidance only works if you don't have other people in your circle who keep pulling you and the other party back together. It's especially tricky if the other person is not a conflict avoider, and keeps trying to seek you out so they can get in just one more last word. Zoa is not Lee's property, and is not currently acting on Lee's behalf. Indeed, Lee would probably not approve of Zoa's current activity. I think that Zoa is, in its own way, advocating for Lee, however, or at least serving as a reminder of Lee's existence. It's definitely drawing attention to an ongoing conflict that Caleb would much rather avoid. |
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